Friday, January 23, 2009

Opinion

Ok girls. I have something that I need you advice your on:

In my last post I told you that I was getting ready to go out with my friend Brittani for the night. Well, Brittani is one of my good friends, she know a little about what I have gone through, but not much...I just dont really like to talk about it to certain people and she is def one of them! haha. Anyway, last night while we were getting ready to go out she talking about how fat she was and how she was going to just "not eat". This is not the first time that she has said things like this and everytime she brings it up I tell her that that is an issue for me and it makes me uncomfortable for her to say things like that, but she STILL talks about it!! She talked about not eating to lose weight for a good 30 minutes before I looked at her and I said "Brittani, believe me that is not a place that you want you to go" and then I went on this HUGE rant about self-confidence and how there are so many other things is this world to care about and dedicate yourself to that are WAY more important than outward appearance. I still dont think that she was fully convinced and the whole time we were eating dinner she talked about how she should not be eating what she was eating and it really made me SUPER uncomfortable and SUPER mad. Have any of you girls ever been through this? What should I do when someones starts talking like that? Most of my other friends are strong confident girls and also know a little bit more about what I went through and they NEVER bring stuff like that up. I love Brittani, but I dont know if it is good for me to surround myself with that. But on the other hand, I want to help her if she is headed down the wrong road. AHHH!! I need everyones expert advice on this, because I know some of you may have been put in this position before as well.

Ok with that said last night was also pretty fun besides that. We went to this dance club called CHROME (I know cheesy name, right?!) and we danced all night...I just love dancing and always have such a blast there! I came home and crashed and now I have no idea why I am up at 830! haha. I just really dont like to sleep in no matter what time I go to bed the night before, what can I say?! Im def a morning person :)

My breakfast this morning was the perfect cure...some berry banana oats and several cups of coffee!

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Enjoyed all together by my computer, on top of my ironically "teachery" apple notebook!

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So anyone have any fun plans for the weekend? Mine is pretty much up in the air, so well see.

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.”

-August Wilson

HAPPY FRIDAY LOVES! <3

***FOOD UPDATE***

oh boy! I had some good eats today after brekkie. I finally broke into my flat out wraps and made a wrap with garlic hummus, LOTS of spinach, a few turkey slices, and salsa...OH MY GOODNESS where have these flat out wraps been all my life?! I have always been more of a sandwich girl than a wrap girl...but these definitely could convert me!

I also had some 2& Fage yogurt with blueberries mixed in. AKA the PERFECT lunch.

I ate kind of a late lunch so I wasnt hungry for dinner before I had to leave for work at 6...but I knew that it would be around 10 before I could actually eat dinner, so I snacked on my new Kashi cereal, mixed with a handle of bran flakes, some blueberries, and vanilla soy milk!

And now for the BEST eats of the night...I picked this dinner up at earthfare on my way home...

Spicy tuna roll...YUMMY! MY FAVE

Now Im just relaxing at the house talking to the boyrfriend on the phone. I hope everyone has a wonderful firday night! <3

6 comments:

Megan said...

mmm fruity oats!!! yum!

i have definitely dealt with friends like that, my roommate is actually having a lot of eating-related issues, and it is not an easy thing to be around. the negativity and toxic and as much as you love your friend, sometimes you just have to walk away. i think you should either have a really honest conversation with her about it, or you should avoid eating meals with her. you definitely do not want her bad food habits and vibes to rub off on you!

love the quote, btw :)

Nicole said...

Oh no! That's a tricky situation. I found your blog a few days ago so I haven't commented yet. Anyway, I realllly hate when people say they shouldn't be eating what they're eating. If it's healthy and good for you, you probably should be eating it. And if it isn't, you wanted it enough to order it and made the decision to get it.

For me I know that getting dinner out with people is sometimes difficult enough without their comments on food. If you think shes a good enough friend to tell her more of why it makes you uncomfortable, do it. Otherwise, I agree with the poster above me that you should try to make less plans around food with her until she talks of other things.

Jen said...

Yummy eats!! :) :)

Im sorry about the friend not understanding... I have had a couple times with friends doing the same... just saying there werent going to eat and having really bad body image.. that is a major trigger for me, because for some reason they feel the need to compare to me... this is upseting and often times friends dont listen. :(

Cassandra said...

Great eats! way to plan out your snacking so you don't get too hungry!
I have never been able to have friends with normal eating habits!! growing up in LA the pressure to be thin is extreme! and me being in my nind overweight most of my life I found i gravited towards girls that were also overweight! we would snack happy and no talk of "i just won't eat" ever happened. Now that i am watching my weight i find it really hard to find other girls who are also helathy and concious eaters. my best advice is if she is going to not eat then there is nothing you can really do to stop her, the only person you should worry about is yourself and keepng you healthy! if that means not hanging around her as much then thats up to you, but don't rule out the fact that you can try to explain your situation whe you feel comfertable, just remember you should really only worry about you!

strongandhealthy said...

Great oats!
I have friends who say they're fat (and they're smaller than me) and don't eat anything, etc. Being that I've had an ED, I try not to pay attention and do what's best for my body. I'm trying to not let others influence my decisions.

Have a fabulous night!

aussirish said...

hi girlie,
yummy eats, and im defo a morning person too :)

hmmm the situation with your friend is defo a tricky one. it must be very hard to be around someone constantly being so negative about body image and eating and as much as you love your friend....its really not gonna help you to be around her while shes being so negative about everything. maybe try have one more serious talk with her and explain khow u cant be around her if she continues to act this way, cause as much as you wanna help her, if itll cause you too start feeling a lil negative about it all then its not worth it. uve tried telling her and warning her, i know shes your friend and your jus trying to be a good friend but at the end of the day shes not your responsability and youve warned her and done all you can. dont let her drag u down girlie!!

have a great sunday!
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